POWERFUL COUNSELLING SESSION ON MARRIAGE

POWERFUL COUNSELLING ON MARRIAGE

I started by asking her, "Tell me what you want in your marriage?

Marriage is a dual contract. You need to understand two people are involved.

I heard someone saying marriage is a covenant, not a contract. Listen, marriage could be anything. There are different kinds of marriage people have established for themselves. There are business marriage, there are family initiated marriage by both parent. There are deceptive marriage inspired for the purpose of profit. There are title oriented marriage for the sake of getting married and having kids.

Saying marriage is a covenant is misleading. Marriage is more than that. Marriage is your life. Marriage is a choice. Knowing it's your life and a choice, it's important you carefully review the deal, the contract or the proposal before saying yes I do.

It's also important you define and state what you want before accepting the journey to be someone's wife.

A major challenge in marriage is that husband and wife didn't communicate well what they want in relationship before getting married.

Bringing in something new when you are already married doesn't always end well.

You need to ask him what he wants. You need to know your job description. I will guide you on how to ask him but first we need to discuss about you.

Have you ever asked yourself who you are? It's an important question and you need to answer it for yourself.

Listen, for you to understand marriage, you need to first understand yourself.

Marriage isn't easy, not because it's not easy but because of the people involved.

Their background, past experience, personal idealogy and perspective.

You are getting married this December. The question you should be asking yourself is how do I succeed in marriage

It's an important question. When you know something isn't easy that should make you to go in prepared.

I always tell people marriage isn't run by faith but by knowledge. To rightly change or influence your spouse, you must be knowledgeable of how to do it.

It can't happen without knowledge. Question, who are you? Do you know who you are? Your strength, your weaknesses.

Personally I don't like the word weakness. I can say area of your vulnerability but the truth is you need to know these things before you say yes I do.

Until you know who you are, it will be difficult to enjoy your marriage.

Knowing who you are will help you know exactly what you want in your marriage. In marriage, you need to be specific on what you want.

These things have to be made known before marriage. A proper introduction of yourself is important before you fully commit yourself to a man.

Have you asked yourself why you chose him. Choosing a man based on his approval of you or because he chose you doesn't always end well. He is a human. He might decide to change his feelings one day.

There should be a strong reason for you committing yourself to a man, whether in relationship or marriage. His reasons can't just be enough because he can decide to change and place new demand.

Do you remember, what I told you yesterday? I said, you need to know your job description.

Lack of communication in relationship, not saying exactly what you want and how you want something are the reason marriage are crashing.

Marriage is an office and when you are signing up into a new office, it's important you know your job description. What is required of you?

You are a simple girl and you need to make him understand who you are, what you want and the kind of man you want.

Relationship is not by force. Marriage isn't by force. It's a choice and that choice should be based on who you are, understanding of who you are and reverence for who you are. Nothing less.

Get it right. It's not about him but it is about you.

When you are getting married, most especially as a woman, you need to bring yourself in the forefront.

Question, what do you want? Who are you? You will be able to know what you want by understanding fully who you are. That's your assignment.

Are you sure you know who you are? If you are looking for a job, during the interview? How do you introduce yourself.

You will need to introduce yourself properly for the institution know if you are the right person for the job.

Most women don't know how to do a proper introduction of themselves. They only assume giving him sex and giving birth are the primary job description. No!

Listen, keeping a man company where you talk about his welfare, cooking for a man and serving him well are more important to him than sex and kids. Oh you didn't hear that.

Listen, Delilah trapped Samson with care and service, not just sex. Every woman can offer sex but not every woman can patiently offer care and service.

The truth is, many people don't know who they are. That's the greatest challenge in marriage.

They keep copying from other people's ideas, desires and standard without stating clearly what they want.

Have you communicated that to him. It's your assignment. If yes, was it well communicated to him?

You need to understand, men sometimes think every woman are same but that's not true.

Every woman may be same based on physical attribute but they are not based on inner value.

A lot is happening in marriage and what we are discussing is the problem.

Imagine, you are a gospel artist and your husband doesn't allow you to go everywhere.

My question is, didn't you tell him everything about you? That's what happened to deceased Nigerian Artist Osinacha. The truth is, she didn't. Oh she didn't because she was more concern getting married than she was about her music career.

Now is the time to tell this man everything about you. Let him know. Are you going to travel? Tell him. Don't be silent. Desperation isn't foolishness.

The problem with people is, they are carried away with getting married more than they concerned about proper introduction.

Oh, I told my wife everything about me. I mean everything both past and the future. This is the mistake people make. They want to introduce something in marriage that they didn't introduce in relationship.

Hope you remember what you are getting counselled for? Didn't you remember what you told me in the MMEA page.

You need to stay focused. You need to list everything, things you want him to improve. If it's communication, then work it out with him. Communication is dual responsibility.

You also need to know the intention of this man, everything about him.

A strong communication with your partner helps you to understand him and know your job description before getting married to him.

The job description is distinctively different for every individual. Don't assume it is general. Don't think you know it. Every man or husband has his own unique job description for his future mrs or wife.

For instance, my job description for my wife is she will be fully involved in my organization, the financial transaction, team building, and I told her I need accountability and transparency.

God bless you".

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