DOCTOR SO SOMEBODY CAN STILL BE A VIRGIN EVEN AFTER GIVING BIRTH

"DOCTOR SO SOMEBODY CAN STILL BE A VIRGIN EVEN AFTER GIVING BIRTH: ANOTHER INTRIGUING TRUE LIFE STORY"

I have the permission of Kemi and Tunde to share their bitter sweet life experience with you for you to learn and to understand what it means to be a VIRGIN.

That morning,a middle aged man walked in inside my consulting room with a young lady who I later understood to be his daughter by name Kemi, both obviously looking sad but kemi looking sadder. Kemi was my patient according to the file before me but from the emotional atmosphere I could see it was looking like the middle aged man who happened to be the father needed the consultation more than the Kemi.

"Good morning sir, good morning kemi, what can I do for you?". "Doctor i am Pastor Adelokun i am the father of this young lady by name kemi. Please doctor help me this girl has put me to shame. I am a pastor in one of the popular ministries    in the country. Can you believe that my 18 years old daughter here is pregnant for a 19 years old boy who just finished secondary school? To make matter worse, two of them are denying it that they didn't do anything may be this is another scenario of Mary the mother of Jesus. You kept crying you didn't do anything yet this is your tummy shooting I don't understand  doctor bail me out." The father said looking at me and pointing to Kemi who was busy sobbing.

"Kemi it is okay. Stop crying. Sit down. I will like you to tell me what truly and sincerely happened. Do I ask daddy to excuse us?" I said, she said "yes". Then I turned to the father " please sir can you give me and kemi few minutes together I will discuss everything with you as permitted by her when we are through". The father agreed and stepped out of my consulting room.

"Okay Kemi I want you to tell me everything with nothing but the whole truth" "okay doctor". She started wiping tears from her eyes "Doctor, Tunde is truly my boyfriend but we did not have sex. What we did was that he laid on me,I closed my two thighs and he put his penis in between my two thighs and vagina but he did not put  his penis inside me and he released there on my vagina and my thighs and this only happened once when I went to visit him in his house. Then after that I didn't see my period again and I saw my tummy growing out and my daddy said my tummy is getting big like I am looking pregnant. This morning he took me to the pharmacy beside our house and they did test and said I am pregnant. He called Tunde and his family to quarrel with them and Tunde too confirmed we didn't do anything. Then he brought me to see you. Doctor please I want you to check me I am still a virgin,no man has ever had sex with me before please doctor believe me. Tunde and I only made out, we didn't have sex doctor, please believe me " 

"Kemi I believe you" "No doctor call a female doctor I want two of you to check me so that my daddy will believe me. Please check me doctor. You people know how you can know if somebody has had sex before. Please I want you to check me." " I said okay if you insist on proving your innocence to your daddy,no problem. I called in Dr (Mrs) Cynthia and explained to her the whole saga. She examined her inside my consulting room and confirmed no sign of any penetration ever in her vagina. " Doctor so did I not tell you? So can you tell my daddy I didn't do anything". 

Then the only explanation here is the sperm released over the vagina and thighs must have escaped inside the vagina and swam to meet ovulated egg and hence this pregnancy. This is the only possible explanation that somebody can still be a virgin and she is pregnant.

I called in the father and explained all to him as permitted by Kemi. The father calmed down and a little surprised that this was actually possible."so doctor what is the way forward now? I am a renowned pastor how do I explain this to my congregation that my 18years old single, secondary school leaver daughter is pregnant? Can you help us remove this stigma?" " I hope you are not suggesting what I am thinking pastor ? " I asked.  He kept quiet. Then I proceeded to tell him the way forward " She will deliver her baby. We will register her for antenatal care. I will also advise that after her delivery, we do paternity (DNA) test for the purpose of resolving this controversy with Tunde's family."

Fast forward,nine months completed, most of which the father took care of her at home and escorted her to the antenatal clinic every visit because she has no mother anymore. She delivered her baby,a boy, through vagina and the DNA test was done and it was 100% Tunde's baby. So this was how Kemi remained a virgin even after the delivery of her baby. One of her post delivery visits, she jokingly told me she said " doctor so this is how I lost my virginity without having any sex". I answered her and told her she was still a virgin. She laughed and said "doctor you are very funny how can I still be a virgin even after giving birth. My baby has already come out and disvirgined me". I went ahead to educate kemi that breakage of hymen doesn't mean being disvirgined as far as what took the hymen away is not sex. Like in her case it is baby that took it away, not sex. So I told her she was still a virgin despite having a child.  It is not what comes out of a woman that disvirgins her, it is what goes inside her. 

Kemi had to stop school for a while to raise her son. The parents of Tunde got angry and stopped his own school too for a while. The whole issue was later resolved between the two families after the DNA test result confirmed Tunde was the father of the baby and they moved on with their lives.

What are the real life lessons I learnt from this true life story of Kemi and Tunde? 

Below are the lessons:

Lesson number 1: 

Flee "make out" as kemi put it. Make out is, for the sake of people who don't know, to do every other thing sexual between a man and a woman apart from penetration. Stay away from make out. Stay away from anything sexual with opposite sex until you are married. Sex and all its related activities including "make out" are only authorised by God to take place inside marriage. Flee them if you are single.

Lesson Number 2 : 

Single men and women note  this today, you can get pregnant without having penetrative sex as in the kemi's case above. Another reason why you should stay away from sex and all its addendums if you are single.  

Lesson number 3: 

You can get pregnant and deliver and still be a virgin as in the kemi's case above. Virginity is a man or a woman who has never had sex before. Sex is simply and traditionally defined as when a man has put penis in your mouth before (oral sex) or put penis inside your vagina (vagina sex ) or put penis in your anus before (anal sex). The man who does this is also no longer a virgin. This goes to say that if only the thing you have ever done before is that penis has been put in your mouth before but penis has never entered your vagina or anus before and your hymen is still intact, you have been disvirgined through the oral sex, you are no longer a virgin despite intact hymen in your vagina and this goes for having only anal sex before without the other two types of sex, you are no longer a virgin if this has occured despite intact hymen. (Note: if sex toy or any other thing than penis is used for the penetration you have also been disvirgined. Not only penis can disvirgin a woman sex toy can, as far as penetration is involved.) 

Lesson Number 4: 

A woman can be a virgin after delivery as in kemi's case and still remained a virgin like in kemi's case who never had sex with Tunde either after the accidental pregnancy or even after her delivery. She remains a virgin until she has sex later in the future. (Note: breakage of hymen is not disvirginity please. Many things that have nothing to do with sex can break hymen and the person is still a virgin after the hymen breakage as far as it is not penis or sex toy that breaks the hymen. Non sexual things that can break hymen are sports, rigorous exercise, circumcision, inserting pad directly inside your vagina during menses, delivery of a baby as in the kemi's case above. If  your hymen is broken by any of these non-sexual things and you have never had sex before through your mouth or anus or vagina, despite the break in your hymen, you are still a VIRGIN even after delivery

Lesson number 5:

Stay away from premarital sex. It can take away your future and you become father or mother overnight that you are not prepared for. Dont suspend or lose your beautiful and promising  future for 5 minutes enjoyment. "A word is enough for the wise."

Thank you for your time for reading this article. I hope you have learnt one or two lessons from it.

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