THE COST OF A HAPPY HOME*

*THE COST OF A HAPPY HOME* 

When you see a happy couple, do not envy them or assume they are fortunate to find each other. *There is no happy home anywhere* - if you see any, be sure they were self-made. *Being a good person or religious* does not mean s/he will make a happy home. *Neither does riches and wealth.* Marrying the *most beautiful woman or the most handsome man* does not guarantee happiness in marriage either. *Many believers even think that marrying another good believer is a sure way to having a happy home, but many have been disappointed.* 

What then makes a happy home? *A happy home is a function of mutual fulfilment, derived from mutual selfless commitment to the marital union / vow.* Having a happy home can only be achieved through deliberate efforts and determination of both parties. No matter how much a partner desires a happy home, *it can only happen if the other partner desires it, and resolves to be a co-labourer in the task of building a happy home.* 

To achieve a happy home, *therefore, both parties must first offer themselves as living sacrifice on the altar of their marriage.* They must deny themselves and be willing to accept their cross.

 *In a happy home, ego and self are buried in the grave of marital bliss.* Partners in a happy home don't think so much about themselves, rather the happiness & good pleasure of their spouse. 

 *The journey to a happy home can be initiated by the man or the woman.* This journey starts with *contentment and diligence.* Then, it continues in daily *forgiveness and mutual tolerance.* 

 *No couple is happy when they continue to look at each other's faults, offences or weaknesses.* They can only be happy if they *choose to accept each other's* shortcomings and offenses, and take their pains and hurts to the Almighty God in fervent prayers, rather than romancing with them. Happy couples *don't win arguments,* rather, they communicate to achieve a better understanding of issues. 

 *Happy couples do not compare their marriage with others,* they are happy and contented with what they have. 

Happy homes are not meant for selfish and inconsiderate partners. Happiness is a choice, but the price is not cheap. *Only the humble and genuinely broken at heart can afford it.* 

The manual for a happy home is not designed by the society or social media. *They are designed by the couples.* The ideal home should not necessarily imbibe the acceptable norms, or trends in the society; rather working and practicing what makes the parties happy and bond together. 

You can initiate the journey to a happy home today, no matter how far you have travelled on the path of bitterness and unforgiveness.

*An UNHAPPY HOME is the junior sibling to hell fire.* *A HAPPY HOME is a reflection of heavenly bliss. The choice is yours today.* 

*PLEASE , GIVE PEACE A CHANCE IN YOUR MARRIAGE TODAY.*